How important are the words “I forgive you”? and who is it for?
Dating a narcissist can be very traumatic. You feel like you are losing your sense of self. You have no awareness of what you like or dislike anymore. Somehow it becomes about meeting the needs of the narcissistic partner.
People pleasing is a type of codependency, and narcissists attract codependents. Codependent behavior is taking care of other people to the point where your own needs and sense of self is lost.
People pleasers are the nicest and the most helpful people you know. They are the ones you can always count on for any favor. They never say no. They help other people.
Why is it so important to be accepted? Why is it so important that this person really likes me? Why do I feel hurt, angry and embarrassed when I sense rejection?