EMDR Therapy for Trauma

Do you feel like you are losing yourself? Do you feel like you are not being heard and your opinions, experiences and needs are being minimized? Do you feel like it does not matter what you do, it’s never enough?

You might be in a relationship, romantic or otherwise that’s not letting you be yourself and occupy space. 

Being in such relationships can make us lose our confidence and doubt ourselves. In these relationships we feel powerless, helpless and hopeless..

Here are some things that you might be experiencing- 

You feel criticized and put down a lot. It feels like you don’t matter. You feel devalued and invalidated.

It feels like it’s always your fault and does not matter how hard you try it’s never good enough. You find yourself defending yourself and over explaining.

You might feel confused a lot. For example- you bring up something to them that you are upset about, but for some reason it’s turned on you and now you find yourself apologizing to them. You find yourself walking on eggshells around that person. 

Gaslighting, where your reality is denied, is a part of your relationship. They tell you that you are too sensitive and you are overreacting. You feel like the best way to keep the peace is just to do what they want.

There is betrayal in your relationship along with constant lies and manipulation. 

It’s really difficult to walk out of an abusive relationship. Even after you have gathered the courage to walk out, the post traumatic stress caused by these relationships need attention and healing. 

PTSD occurs when an incident leaves someone experiencing a direct threat to their life and/or leaves them feeling helpless and powerless.

Trauma experienced in relationships can cause PTSD type symptoms. As symptoms of trauma can continue even after the relationship ends.

You might have ruminating thoughts. You have intense disturbing memories. Nightmares and flashes make it difficult to sleep.

You feel anxious, anger, regret, fear, panic attacks.

You have a strong negative reaction to someone talking loudly or giving you a hug or touching you by accident. 

You might notice that you are very alert and have difficulty with sleep and appetite might change.

You carry a lot of blame and shame.

You go through a rollercoaster of thoughts and emotions.

You have a difficult time trusting people in romantic relationships or just trusting people in general.

You might not lean on loved ones for support out of shame or because you don’t want to burden them. 

Someone going through relationship trauma can also have a history of childhood trauma.

Childhood trauma caused because of experiencing emotional neglect as a child can cause really deep wounds and rationalizing your caretaker’s behavior prevents you from recognizing your pain.

Unhealed childhood trauma makes us more susceptible to allowing toxic abusive people into our life.

If  trauma is left untreated it can interfere with one’s body’s capacity to emotionally regulate and interfere with our everyday life making it difficult for us to live in the present moment. 

If you are going through something like that or have gone through something similar then get in touch with me. EMDR therapy can help us heal your wounded and traumatized parts and help you find yourself again.

Don’t worry you are not alone. You can find relief.

How to get started?

Send me an email to set up a 20 minute free consultation. If both of us feel like we are a good fit then we schedule the first appointment. All sessions are provided online through video.