People pleasers in relationships are lead by the fear of abandonment. They are worried about being judged by others. They try very hard to fit in. People pleasers have a difficult time setting boundaries. They think relationship are based on what can do for others. They think if they stop giving no one will include them.
A child who grows up with emotional neglect learns very subconsciously that it’s not safe to be themselves and express their needs. As adults they have a hard time being vulnerable and letting people in. Learn about the coping skills that makes it difficult for them to form secure relationships.
Culturally sensitive therapy has a big influence on the therapeutic relationship. We cannot separate an individual from their culture. Culture determines how we perceive the world around us. Culturally sensitive therapy allows trust to develop in the therapeutic relationship.
Relationship trauma is when you are in a toxic and abusive relationship that leaves you feeling powerless and hopeless. Relationship trauma is not limited to romantic relationships. Healing relationship trauma is important to help your system unburden and allow yourself to feel safe and be able to emotionally connect again.
Childhood emotional trauma can cause deep wounds that continue to hurt us in our adulthood. In order to feel loved and seen we disconnect from our feelings and focus on meeting others needs. This makes it easier for toxic people to enter our lives. Lean about how childhood emotional neglect affects us as adults and how to heal from it.
Once we walkout of a toxic relationship the next struggle is how to stop going back to it. A toxic relationship results in experiencing trauma, but ending it comes with a lot of grief as well. Identifying ways to support yourself and seeking the right outside support helps in this journey. Here are a few steps you can take in this process.
This article talks about different strategies that can help you cope with depression. Depression is not the regular feeling of sadness that we feel from time to time. It is not easy to cope with depression because the things that help us get out of depression are the exact things we cannot find the energy to engage in. We tend to stop finding joy in things that used to make us happy.
Emotional boundaries are violated when you take on someone else’s problems as yours. Set emotional boundaries by connecting to yourself and identifying what makes you feel comfortable and safe. You can support people you care for while holding emotional boundaries to protect your energy. Learn to identify your needs and convey them clearly and calmly.
There are lots of reasons for you to keep going back to a toxic relationship. Ending a relationship is not easy. The confusion from mixed messages and lies that happens in a toxic relationship makes it difficult to end it. On top of that if you have childhood trauma resulting in attachment wounds then getting out of toxic situations become more complicated.