Relationship trauma is when you are in a toxic and abusive relationship that leaves you feeling powerless and hopeless. Relationship trauma is not limited to romantic relationships. Healing relationship trauma is important to help your system unburden and allow yourself to feel safe and be able to emotionally connect again.
Childhood emotional trauma can cause deep wounds that continue to hurt us in our adulthood. In order to feel loved and seen we disconnect from our feelings and focus on meeting others needs. This makes it easier for toxic people to enter our lives. Lean about how childhood emotional neglect affects us as adults and how to heal from it.
Once we walkout of a toxic relationship the next struggle is how to stop going back to it. A toxic relationship results in experiencing trauma, but ending it comes with a lot of grief as well. Identifying ways to support yourself and seeking the right outside support helps in this journey. Here are a few steps you can take in this process.
This article talks about different strategies that can help you cope with depression. Depression is not the regular feeling of sadness that we feel from time to time. It is not easy to cope with depression because the things that help us get out of depression are the exact things we cannot find the energy to engage in. We tend to stop finding joy in things that used to make us happy.
Emotional boundaries are violated when you take on someone else’s problems as yours. Set emotional boundaries by connecting to yourself and identifying what makes you feel comfortable and safe. You can support people you care for while holding emotional boundaries to protect your energy. Learn to identify your needs and convey them clearly and calmly.
There are lots of reasons for you to keep going back to a toxic relationship. Ending a relationship is not easy. The confusion from mixed messages and lies that happens in a toxic relationship makes it difficult to end it. On top of that if you have childhood trauma resulting in attachment wounds then getting out of toxic situations become more complicated.
Codependency is not something you only see in a romantic relationship. In a codependent relationship one person is always giving way more than they are receiving. To stop being codependent in a relationship, along with knowing your codependent patterns it might be important to know what a healthy relationship looks like.
People pleasing is just not about saying yes to others, it’s constantly trying to meet other people’s needs by decoding what they want from you or expect from you. People pleasers put others’ needs above their own. There is a constant fear of abandonment, fear of being alone, fear of being left behind and fear of criticism. By being agreeable they try to protect themselves from these fears.
Have you ever wondered, why do we need people in our lives? why are relationships important? With my experience both professionally and personally I have learned that it does not matter how much we try to convince ourselves that, “I am better off alone” it never works. I am a big promoter of independence, self-reliance, self-trust and self care, but that does not mean we don’t need to depend on other people.