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How to forgive and let go is something my clients ask me a lot. Who is forgiveness for? Is forgiveness important to let go? Forgiveness is a part of the process of healing. It happens, but only when we are ready for it. There is no rush to getting to forgiveness. Connecting with yourself and making space for your feeling is a step toward healing.

Dating a narcissist can be very traumatic. You feel like you are losing your sense of self. You have no awareness of what you like or dislike anymore. Somehow it becomes about meeting the needs of the narcissistic partner. It’s difficult to just rely on people’s traits to tell if the person you are interacting with has a toxic behavior pattern or not. But you can guide yourself in figuring that out.

If you were to ask me to describe a narcissist in a few words, my words of choice would be self-centered and lacks empathy. People pleasing is a type of codependency, and narcissists attract codependents. Codependent behavior is taking care of other people to the point where your own needs and sense of self is lost.

People pleasers are the nicest and the most helpful people you know. They are the ones you can always count on for any favor. They never say no. They help other people. People pleasing is a type of codependency, they tend to prioritize other people’s needs and overlook their own needs. So are people pleasers born like that?

Why do I feel hurt, angry and embarrassed when I sense rejection? Rejection might come in different forms at different stages of life from different people. It does not matter how old we are or what part of the world we are from. It always hurts. Sometimes we wonder why we crave for company in spite of having been rejected and hurt so many times.